Meyers-Briggs.

Meyers-Briggs. I think that if you are using the four personality letters to understand yourself better, then they're helpful. I think that if you are using them to understand other people better, that's completely wrong, awful, stop. Even if my four letters are the exact same as yours, we're going to have different personalities, and that is SUPER COOL!! 

I first took this personality test (assessment, do they rather call it?) in college. My letters didn't match up with the way other people saw me, and they were questioned. They're always questioned. For four years now, I've always ended up as a certain four letters. But every time I revealed them to other people, the people were incredulous and surprised.

So I started justifying myself. "Well, I'm like this..." or "I know it doesn't seem to match your expectations of this letter, but I always get it..."

Recently I've been buying into the lies that either A, the letters define me, or B, since I'm a quiet person I should enjoy being alone all the time, at home. These both sound irrational and stupid when I write them down. In fact, they are. But this is the reality of what people say.

Recently I re-discovered what I've known for quite some time, that I really enjoy being busy. I really enjoy being around people most of the time. (I also really enjoy being alone sometimes, but honestly, who doesn't?)

People put "quiet" in such a box. Stop doing that. In our society, we often treat quietness as something to be fixed or changed, but I have come to appreciate mine. Quiet becomes a problem when I'm not saying something that needs to be said, not sharing myself with a group, or being shy. But generally, I think it is really wise to listen more than I speak.

I don't really care if I'm an introvert or an extrovert. Again, if it helps me understand myself better, it's great. But don't try to understand me through these two simple letters. Quite honestly, I don't believe I'm either one. I can go weeks being alone and love it. I can go weeks being alone and hate it, and vice versa. It's dumb. Stop analyzing other people. That's not fair. Don't say to me, "You're an introvert, so..." Don't say to me, "I'm not extraverted like you." Stop. I know that sometimes, being with people rejuvenates me, and sometimes it drains me dry.

All this to say, don't analyze me. Don't assume four letters describe me.